It's heartbreaking to know that the Family is the source of most Stigma and Violence. Today, I believe happiness and love from ones family play a vital role in one's development including one's chosen career.
Sometimes the family become selfish wanting you to do their will and not yours.
Why is the family so selfish, 'get married to her, her dad and I are good friends' 'you won't get married to her! You know the issue between us and her family'.
As an adult, you are responsible for your actions. Capable of directing yourself. Let no one impose their selfish will on you.
In choosing your life partner, don't try to please anybody by getting married to their love and not your love. It's the first cause of divorce and unsettled marriage.
Remember, The first rule to a peaceful life is to have loveable and understanding people around you. You always will need help from them.
A lot of people are suffering today by the injuries inflicted on them by their own family. By injuries not only physical, I mean emotional and psychological.
Some people especially women are betrayed by their family marrying them off to cruel men, even when the family know very well of his bad habits.
When things start to get rough the family will be the first to tell you to get married to him that he will change his bad habits overtime, sis! If care is not taken it will be the beginning of your problem, they will still tell you, 'endure it for your children, so they will not live with one parent, so they wont be hurt. But surprisingly you get beaten up everyday before them, and you still say 'am staying for my kids, I don't want to hurt them'.
Sometimes, you will see couple fighting and their kids who are less then ten (10) years of age will be crying and saying 'Daddy please stop' or 'Mummy please stop' are you not hurting them already, how embarrassing!.
The neighbours will be the one to pick the children out of the fighting scene.
Also, if any of the parent have a favourite among the children, they begin to say bad things about the other parent to the child which is very bad for the development of the child.
The most annoying and disheartening part of it is, the family that created this will not be able to contain it. Sometimes they tell you to keep having patience or even turn their backs at you completely.
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